Dating MOU
The step dating apps skip: a private, eight-minute alignment check between matching and meeting.
What was broken
Dating apps are built to get two people to a match and a conversation. After that, they send you off to dinner with a stranger. The chat before that dinner stays on the surface, where everyone agrees on everything. The questions that decide whether a second date is worth it wait until both people have already invested an evening. Lots of tools help you write a better opener. Nothing helped two people check honestly whether they're aligned before they meet.
How we built it
Dating MOU asks the second question. The 14 questions aren't a compatibility quiz about whether you want kids or like travel. They assume the surface-level agreement is already there and ask what happens underneath it: how you'd handle the harder version, the worse day, the real trade-off.
Both people answer separately, on their own time, in under eight minutes. Neither sees the other's answers while filling it out, so nobody tunes their answers to what the other person seems to want. Most questions are ordinal, so the options always appear in the same order and are never shuffled. Some questions deliberately leave out the easy, diplomatic answer.
The Readout always tells both people where they stand. Reasons are optional to give and opt-in to receive, so getting a clear answer never requires hearing an explanation you didn't ask for. Feedback about appearance or immutable characteristics is never collected or delivered. That rule is built into the architecture, not left to moderation.
Where it is today
Live since July 2026 and shaped by feedback from early users during development. Next up is a dating-app helper inside the product: screenshot a profile, get an opener and follow-up replies. That way Dating MOU covers the whole path from first message to first date.